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#WhyILeft, #WhyIStayed, and Why I Didn’t Follow Either — & 48 hours of donations

#WhyILeft, #WhyIStayed, and Why I Didn’t Follow Either — & 48 hours of donations

For the next 48 hours (that is, until 7am PST on Thursday, September 11), 40% of any sales from Light Gets In will go to WIN NYC, an organization that I trust and have donated to before. WIN NYC supports breaking the cycle of homelessness for women and their children — homelessness being a significant issue for women facing […]

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The Structure of Chaos: On Living Well with ADHD. (Guest Post)

The Structure of Chaos: On Living Well with ADHD. (Guest Post)

When the doctor told me that I had ADHD, my first instinct was to laugh. It felt preposterous… But as she went on to ask me about my tendency to daydream and become easily distracted, the unshakeable feeling of being in constant motion as if driven by a motor, and my lifelong battle with hypersensitivity, […]

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Why, neurologically, success doesn’t stick — and how to get it to.

Why, neurologically, success doesn’t stick — and how to get it to.

credit: Armosa Studios So how, then, do we let our achievements become not mere facts to be rattled off or included in a CV for future use, but actual experiences that get bone-deep? That add to our sense of self? Our self-efficacy? Listen to me read this piece here:   In the above photograph, I’m […]

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On creating a resilient small business, with Grace Quantock.

On creating a resilient small business, with Grace Quantock.

There’s a concept in entrepreneurship that our only limit is how big we can dream. That if we can break those mental blocks, if we can truly believe it then anything is possible for us. But through all this we still have these beautiful, fallible, terribly human bodies. And humans burn out. I think it’s […]

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What do you say when someone tells you about their mental health diagnosis?

What do you say when someone tells you about their mental health diagnosis?

There are plenty of pieces out there, I’ve found, about what not to say. (Example: Do not tell a person experiencing clinical depression to “get over it,” or to “snap out of it.”) But less common are the pieces that advise us on what’s in the right ballpark. Listen to me read this piece here: […]

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Places to go, people to see. May 24 2014

Places to go, people to see. May 24 2014

After a few days of the stomach flu, I’m happy to report that I’m back to my non-flu-infested self. While sulking and sick, I did manage to find a great treasure trove of magic on the Internet. (Many thanks for my Facebook pals for suggestions and words of comfort.) Part III of my essay, “The […]

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Shrugging’s for chumps. (On the importance of giving an opinion.)

Shrugging’s for chumps. (On the importance of giving an opinion.)

When asked whether she’d like a mushroom omelet or one with asparagus, she tells her uncle that she doesn’t really care — to which he replies: “You should never say that again, dear girl. It is stupid, which you are not… So make up your mind, before you open your mouth.” Listen to me read […]

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How I work with limited energy as a solopreneur.

How I work with limited energy as a solopreneur.

I have a partnership with my internal rhythms, and that partnership allows me to make peace with what I’ve got in my reserves. It permits me to figure out how best to make use of my energy on any given day, whether I only have three, five, or seven hours of cognitive and physical ability. […]

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Acceptance as a path to thriving. (Guest post)

Acceptance as a path to thriving. (Guest post)

When I quit my full-time job to become a life coach and portrait photographer, I had a lot of fears. The biggest one, by far, was that I’d fall into a deep depression, be unable to function, and subsequently fail to support myself financially. This post comes to you courtesy of Off We Go: Entrepreneurs […]

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