The Unexpected Shape

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When self-help goes bad: the dark side of bootstrapping. (Guest post)

When self-help goes bad: the dark side of bootstrapping. (Guest post)

Image Credit: Corrie… via Compfight (cc) If we’re going to foster a true entrepreneurial community + safe space, we need to have these conversations. We need to stop letting ignorance masquerade as self-help and giving it a pass, and instead we need to give real help – even if it’s not as comfortable or easy, or […]

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Comorbid: finding stability on shifting ground. (Guest post)

Comorbid: finding stability on shifting ground. (Guest post)

image credit: Beth Kirby About a year after getting clean, I was sitting in my therapist’s office, and I decided, with her encouragement, to start a website and forge the career I really wanted. I poured myself into it as I’d previously poured myself into my own dissolution. A lot of my weaknesses are also […]

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The “truth” about entrepreneurship & mental illness. (Guest post)

The “truth” about entrepreneurship & mental illness. (Guest post)

image credit: Eilidh Rhead People ask me all the time how I balance the raw and often unpredictable experience of bipolar disorder with owning a business and being an endurance athlete, and I don’t think I’ve ever had what people consider a “good” answer.   This post comes to you courtesy of Off We Go: […]

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I kicked my rapist’s ass (14 years later), & what that means for your self-kindness.

I kicked my rapist’s ass (14 years later), & what that means for your self-kindness.

As the minutes flicked by, with me standing dumbly on the center mat, I had no idea how I was going to get through the custom fight — let alone what sort of fight I’d ask for. This piece is, I’m honored to say, a part of Hannah Braime’s Thriving Blog Tour, which is “spreading […]

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Places to go, people to see.

Places to go, people to see.

 Orenda is a word that describes a force — a mystical force — present in all people. Orenda is what empowers people to affect the world, or their own lives. The above photograph was taken on a day when I was tasked with the assignment of choosing a photographer to emulate. I chose William Eggleston, […]

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On the falsehood of “ordinary blessings.”

On the falsehood of “ordinary blessings.”

Ordinary blessings do not exist because in the depths of struggle, every pinprick of light is a blessing. The trick is to remember, once out of the depths, that the light is everywhere; everything is a blessing. Listen to me read this piece below:   “She could not let herself remember the lonely pleasures she […]

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A room of my own: the studio tour

A room of my own: the studio tour

It’s where things are made — by which I mean the scribbles on book-planning notecards, the editing for others, the social media distractions and promotions, the dreaming. Listen to me read this piece here:   “…To have a room of her own, let alone a quiet room or a sound-proof room, was out of the […]

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Places to go, people to see

Places to go, people to see

Daphne on the trail in Fort Funston. She looks back periodically to make sure C and I are still there. Dear ones, I have missed doing this round-up on Saturdays. There’s something glorious about sprinkling a heap of links in my space — something about sharing what I like, and showing you things that you […]

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In defense of striving.

In defense of striving.

image from oh my deer purchase the print here The struggle, the fight, the ongoing healing journey in mind, body, and spirit — all of these involve striving. And they often don’t involve ease. Listen to me read this piece here:   Striving. Sense a flinch? The word’s landed itself on the semantic blacklist — […]

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